Mindfulness Skill and Emotional Regulation by Mia Tangredi

“Meditation is about seeing clearly the body that we have, the mind that we have, the domestic

situation that we have, the job that we have, and the people who are in our lives. It’s about seeing

how we react to all these things. It’s seeing our emotions and thoughts just as they are right now, in

this very moment, in this very room, on this very seat. It’s about not trying to make them go away,

not trying to become better than we are, but just seeing clearly with precision and gentleness.”

~Pema Chodron

Lashing out and acting impulsively can be a result of black and white thinking; which can cause you to act without fully considering the entire situation. This can be disruptive to your inner peace and damage your relationships. The DBT skill of Mindfulness helps you slow down, take a step back and help you to clearly evaluate the situation. It lets you become aware of yourself and your surroundings.

Two mindfulness skills to guide you through your practice are “what” skills and “how” skills. The “what” skills help you enter a state of mindfulness through observing your body and your feelings. The what skills also help you learn how to describe what you observed in words using only the facts. When you then mentally participate and engage fully in the present moment, not letting past or future thinking get in your way, you are able to act in a mindful way in that situation. The how skills teach you how to act while in a state of mindfulness: avoiding self-judgment, focusing on one thing at a time, and learning to do what works best for you.

Developing a mindfulness practice and using what and how skills help you get into wise mind where you are in tune with your emotions and the valuable information they give you, as well as the logical facts of the situation. Developing these skills will bring you to make better decisions in a balanced way, observing over reacting or irrational behavior. Learning that you can proceed with reduced anxiety in the present moment and have more control over your behaviors is liberating and act of self-love. Decisions begin to align with long-term goals and practitioners of mindfulness experience more harmony in their life, and in the relationships they share.

Join us for Mindful Meditation on Tuesdays at 6pm and Fridays at 12pm with Mia, beginning late March.

In addition, we will be offering a 10 week DBT course beginning February 26th on Tuesdays from 12:30-2:00pm.

Mark Romano